Japanese dating rules
Most weddings are held either according to Shinto traditions or in chapels according to Christian marriage traditions.Traditionally, marriages were categorized into two types according to the method of finding a partner—omiai, meaning arranged or resulting from an arranged introduction, and ren'ai, in which the husband and wife met and decided to marry on their own—although the distinction has grown less meaningful over postwar decades as western ideas of love alter Japanese perceptions of marriage.The institution of marriage in Japan has changed radically over the last millennium.Indigenous practices adapted first to Chinese Confucianism during the medieval era, and then to Western concepts of individualism, gender equality, romantic love, and the nuclear family during the modern era.Aristocratic wives could remain in their fathers' house, and the husband would recognize paternity with the formal presentation of a gift.
The meeting was originally a samurai custom which became widespread during the early twentieth century, when commoners began to arrange marriages for their children through a go-between Courtship remained rare in Japan at this period.Customs once exclusive to a small aristocracy gained mass popularity as the population became increasingly urbanized.The Heian period of Japanese history marked the culmination of its classical era, when the vast imperial court established itself and its culture in Heian-kyō (modern Kyoto)., the basic unit of society with a collective continuity independent of any individual life.Members of the household were expected to subordinate all their own interests to that of the ie, with respect for an ideal of filial piety and social hierarchy that borrowed much from Confucianism.
Parents sometimes staged an arranged marriage to legitimize a "love match," but many others resulted in separation and sometimes suicide. A proposal by Baron Hozumi, who had studied abroad, that the absence of love be made a grounds for divorce failed to pass during debates on the Meiji Civil Code of 1898.